Close your eyes and think about a time you succeeded.

I mean truly succeeded.

You put in the work, saw it through, and felt accomplished for your efforts. Was it a project at work, home, potty training? Maybe you couldn’t do a push-up and now you can. Maybe you still can’t do a push-up, but someone told you yesterday your arms looked toned and strong. We all can’t be Jennifer Lopez on a pole, but darn it, do we look strong when we are holding our children!

Whatever the win, visualize it in your mind now. Feel all the feelings as they wash over you. Feelings like: pride and elation. How often do we sit in these feelings? Probably not as often as we let our minds wander into negative self-talk.

The next time you succeed stop and whisper it to your child,