More of Ourselves, Please

There is this idea presented to women that we can have it all. If this year has taught us anything it’s while that may be true, it always comes with a tremendous sacrifice. Absolutely no one has sacrificed more than we have during this time. In that vein, there is another false narrative that is only spoken to mothers. That in order to be “good moms”, we must be “self-less”.

Think about that for a moment. We are only good, when we become less like ourselves?

The magic surrounding this village, has showed us it is possible to be a mom and… (dot, dot, dot)

Our village is a place to look up to each other. 

A place to hear and see snippets of each other’s existence, without ever promoting the narrative that we should mother while being less like ourselves. In fact, it’s the opposite. What this space means is we can exist within our best selves: the strongest, most empowered version of us. Where we can share vulnerable truths such as this without fear of judgement or misunderstanding.

It’s a place that celebrates our choices to go after the things we want and doing right by who we are. Motherhood isn’t about being self-less; it’s about discovering, uncovering, and redefining pieces of ourselves.

Glennon Doyle says, ”Selfless women make for an efficient society but not a beautiful, true, or just one. When women lose themselves the world loses their way. We do not need more selfless women. What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world's expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves. What we need are women who are full of themselves. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.”

 To which we say, yes, more of that please.